Where Did Cain Get His Wife?

“Where did Cain get his wife (Gen 4:17)?” is the question of many today. This answer is not that difficult to find if we will just do a little “diggin’ in the scriptures”.

Note how Gen 3:20 tells us that Eve was the mother of all the living. Gen 1:28 records that one of the first commands given to Adam and Eve was to be fruitful and multiply (have children). Surely Adam and Eve did have many children.

Take note also that genealogies in the Bible often focus on lineages relevant to pertinent characters to God’s message, and, most importantly, to the lineage of the coming Messiah. As a relevant example, the main genealogical focus of the first few chapters of Genesis have not so much to do with Cain as they do with Seth (Gen 4:25- 5:32). Seth gives rise to a godly (spiritually minded) race (Gen 4:26) and eventually to Noah himself (Gen 5:30-32) who’s line eventually produces the Messiah. Cain however propagates a race of ungodly, selfish, physically minded people (Gen 4: 17, 23). We see the contrast in Gen 6:1-8 where the term “sons of God” no doubt refer to Seth’s descendants, and the “daughters of men” refer to Cain’s descendants. The mixing of these two in marriage produced a destructive, tyrannical people (“giants” in Gen 6:4) which eventually brought about God’s watery judgment upon the world.

Now, with this in mind, we can see that even though God’s word mentions only three of Adam and Eve’s children by name, they did have many sons and daughters (Gen 3:20, 5:4). From this large family Cain would have taken his wife. So, the answer is: Cain married one of his sisters! Now some of you are probably totally grossed out or crying “Incest!”, but God made no pronouncements against inter-family sexual relationships until the days of Moses in Leviticus 18:9 and Deut 27:22. You see, in the days of Cain, the human gene pool was not riddled with diseases and mutations which slowly entered humankind as a result of the curse of sin. It was not until later in the descent of man that harm would come from incestuous relationships. That is why from the time of Moses to today, it is not only spiritually dangerous to commit incest, it is physically and mentally dangerous as well. The world would have never been populated unless brother could lie with sister at the beginning. God’s plan always works! ----- Mike Sullivan